"Brandon... Are You Okay? | Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable | ft. SOLO Brandon

So apparently we need to have a welfare check.

Kidding. I've had enough people ask some version of Is Brandon OK Since I started the podcast that I figured we should probably address it. So for anyone genuinely concerned, yes Brandon is OK Am I tired? Absolutely. Do I have additional stress right now? 100% Let me remind you, 3 boys, including newborn twins, A7 year old, my beautiful wife Michelle, career, flag football practice at this time, family, friends, travel, this podcast. I mean, so perhaps the better question isn't, is Brandon OK? Maybe it's why does Brandon voluntarily keep adding more and more to his plate?

And I wish I had an answer for you, but unfortunately I don't. So I mean for the people who think it's embarrassing. Then there's the other category, the people who aren't genuinely concerned, the people who think, what the hell is this guy doing? That's OK. You, you don't have to like it. You don't have to get it. You don't have to listen. I mean, you can think I'm embarrassing. I get a tickled at the thought of I'm the topic of a whole bunch of group conversation, you know, OK, Think it's ridiculous.

Just make sure you leave me a comment. All publicity is good publicity. What is up, guys? Welcome back to the Coil Chaos Podcast by Brandon Coyle. This is episode 3 and we're doing something a little different today. No guests today. It's just me, so good luck. I actually started recording this podcast episode in my car driving home from work. While I was driving, I started thinking about some of the reactions that I've gotten from people since started the podcast, and that led me back to something that's actually a saying that stuck with me over the years.

You've got to get comfortable being uncomfortable. So let's talk about it. This podcast is something completely new for me. Obviously, actually, I didn't realize very new for and something completely different for all the people that I know, you know, locally and personally and most people have been super supportive and are like, God, Brandon, anything for attention. But actually the podcast is working for you. But then I've gotten a couple people, you know, other reactions, I should say, from people like, dude, what are you doing?

Are you all right? This is embarrassing. Like it's not a good look, dude, are you OK? So those asking who are genuine out of genuine concern, thank you and I hope you can sleep better knowing I am well. And then we have, you know, the people that are just judging trying to get a rise out of me and you're not going to get it. Got it all. Dude, this is awesome. To what are you having some midlife crisis? And I'm like, dude, I started a podcast. I didn't leave my family and joined a cult. That Eric Michael hair cult would be the one I joined though.

So everybody calm down. I'm good. All right. So now that we've got that address, you know, people are obviously surprised that I'm doing the podcast. I guess that I'm like, it's actually out there on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts. So you know, it's different. It's literally opening yourself up to the public literally across I guess the world. I'll have to look at the analytics and see if I'm worldwide yet.

So, you know, I get people's reaction around here locally and those that aren't, you know, into this kind of thing. I mean, we're not in LA, this is in Hollywood. I get it, I get it. But there's like a difference between those genuinely concerned because, you know, I got a lot going on right now versus those just, like I said, trying to get a rise. Sorry to disappoint you.

The funny part is like launching this podcast triggers a welfare check for me. But I'm not going to, you know, I'm not going to bullshit. I mean, not going to sit here and act like I'm completely immune to what people think of me. I'm I'm not. If somebody says, dude, what are you doing? This is embarrassing. I mean, any normal human, unless you're a psychopath, would be like, wait, is this embarrassing? Is and like, and you know, that's where you have to catch yourself. And because maybe it is, maybe I'll look back at episode 3 of this first season of Coil chaos by Brandon Coyle and be like, Jesus Christ, Brandon.

But I mean, who cares? So what? Like, since when did being embarrassed become good enough reason to not try something or, you know, something new? So that's brought me back to the same get comfortable with being uncomfortable. And I don't even know if I understood at the time when I heard this how much that applies outside of work. I mean, like, discomfort shows up everywhere. Think about it professionally, obviously socially, people, a lot of people are uncomfortable in a social setting. Your relationship, I mean, all relationships have uncomfortable moments.

Parenthood is for sure uncomfortable. I mean, you never know what these kids are going to do. I mean, we were on a flight. We just went to LA. Michelle and I took Carson for a little long weekend trip, just the three of us, kind of like a, sorry, you've been neglected these past four months, but he has not been neglected. I'm joking. And then, you know, starting something new, like a podcast, you know, putting yourself online, I mean, for the world to judge. Public speaking is another good example of that.

Just trying something that you might not be so great at and then, you know, letting people watch you do it, that's truly uncomfortable. But it doesn't necessarily mean that you're doing anything wrong. I mean, sometimes it means you're doing something you've never done. Sometimes your growth makes other people uncomfortable or, you know, anytime you have you make a change from the the norm, you know, I mean, this is something I've realized. Sometimes getting comfortable being uncomfortable means, you know, other people feel uncomfortable too.

Not intentionally. Like I'm not saying go around and piss everybody off. What I mean is people get comfortable with the version that they know of you. Like they know Brandon as the dead husband, the crazy sales guy, the loud boisterous one, clearly the attention seeker, the guy wearing the sunglasses inside at night, whatever. I mean, then suddenly I'm starting to podcast and other people don't know what to do. Like you can't let somebody else's perception of who you're supposed to be determine what what you're willing to try and what you're willing to do.

That's that's on them. That's their comfort zone. It does not have to be mine or yours. Now I know somebody's listening thinking Brandon, easy for you to say you'll do anything for attention. Fair. I get that. So I'll give you that I'm a very, very self aware person. But being self aware, outgoing, boisterous doesn't mean that I'm automatically just comfortable in every scenario. I mean, and never get uncomfortable. That's there's a difference. And I had to learn that. And honestly, if it wasn't for my sales job, I probably would just be unaware and not so comfortable being uncomfortable.

How many times are we going to say that this episode? Like I said, I've been in sales for now more than a decade. And my job specifically forces you to become comfortable with being uncomfortable. I mean, I had to go into a doctor's office as a sales guy with just a, you know, bachelors of science in business management, talking to these board certified doctors. So I'm walking into these offices, people I've never met, never seen. I got to start building the relationships and credibility mean I have to pitch products and devices to providers who are much more intelligent than than I am.

And constantly being shut down in sales when you're doing cold calls, always hearing no rejection is a big part of my industry. And then having uncomfortable conversations, long pauses when you're giving your pitch a good old national sales meeting, NSM, where you have to be certified to perform your job, which is your livelihood is, you know, riding on that. So you have to be sure to stay compliant, dot your IS, cross your TS. It's very overwhelming and nothing makes a roomful of grown adults suddenly want to disappear more than somebody saying, OK, everybody pair up.

We're going to role play. Jesus. That is the absolute worst. Kill me now. So that's, that's how you learn. You do it nervous, awkward, embarrassed for sure. And you're thinking the whole time, I absolutely do not want to be here and doing this right now. But then it's over. You survive, something interesting happens, the next thing isn't quite as uncomfortable. And then you do another one and another one and each sales call get just, you know, eventually gets better and better. And then you realize, oh, I got this.

I can handle this. This is funny. Probably isn't the greatest evidence that I, you know, I'm entirely too comfortable, I guess, with public embarrassment. But recently my son and I are huge banana ball fans. I don't know if any of you all are out there listening, but they came to New Orleans for the first time and they had a weekend of sold out games at the Caesar Superdome here in New Orleans. And in front of 70,000 people, probably 70,000 plus people, somehow your boy Brandon ends up being axed, taking Carson to the bathroom.

Next thing I know, this guy with a clipboard and a headset approaches us and it's like, oh, you're all merched out. You know, y'all look like y'all having a good time into this. And he's like, you want to be part of the show? And I'm like, yeah. And next thing I know, I'm being escorted down to the field and I'm told that I'm going to be throwing out the first pitch. Well, sounds awesome and it was, but that required me to be blindfolded and get on all fours from the pitcher's mound while the host of the game who MCS throughout the the entire game, he puts the blindfold on me and then throws a rubber banana and I have to get on all fours and find the banana blindfolded.

And based off of the crowd's reaction, cheers and boos, you know, find this banana. So that got me the title of the longest banana ball Finder, I guess ever. According to the young professor who is the MC of the banana ball game. Shout out and yeah, I took me a while, but my son's favorite player, Coach Rach shoutout helped me by getting down on his hands and knees and saying, dude, it is right in front. You grab it. So, you know, I definitely, definitely have been in uncomfortable situations before.

So don't think I'm not right there with you. I have the experience, I've mastered the craft of being comfortable in uncomfortable situations. So you know, if I can do it, anyone can do it. So there's hope for us all, guys. There's hope for us all. So can't believe I did that. That's like honestly, every time I think about it and I actually have a video, so I'll be sure to post that on my social media pages for you all to get a good old laugh from. You're welcome. You're welcome. The reason I shared that story is as ridiculous of a story it is.

I mean, think about it. What if I would have said no and thought absolutely not? I'm going to look like an idiot. And like I've mentioned before in this podcast, I'm not an athlete. So I was uncomfortable being put in a situation where athletics athleticism was, you know, required and I survived. I did it. And had I not agreed to do that because it makes me uncomfortable playing sports because I know I'm not the best athlete or barely even an athlete at all, I would have missed out on like an unbelievable experience.

I got to, I get to say that I've performed at a sold out show at the Superdome in New Orleans. I mean, that's, that's, that's big shit, or at least to me it is so. But that's the point. Like not every uncomfortable thing turns into something amazing. Sometimes it sucks. Sometimes you fail and you embarrass yourself. But then you'll learn and you survive hopefully, and you just get better and better and things just become easier. You start to have more fun. You, you know, put yourself out there more.

You just start to gain more life experiences. So I think that, you know, that's a good lesson for everybody. So one thing I do want to I guess clarify since I've described and promos for a Coil Chaos podcast as being unfiltered, you know, it definitely will be an unfiltered show. I mean, I'm going to share my opinions like I always do. My the guests that I have on are more than welcome to share theirs and we'll talk about real stuff. But I just want to make it clear, you know, that unfiltered doesn't mean let's intentionally piss everybody off every episode.

I don't want to turn Coil Chaos into a political podcast. I'm not trying to turn it into a religious debate. That's, that's not what this is. People believe different things, vote differently, live differently, have different values that mean that's that's their life. I've always lived by you. Do you? You know, there's obviously certain things that I have 0 tolerance for, particularly anything involving anyone being hurt, abuse, taking advantage of, especially women and children. I will never ever.

That won't fly with me. But anything else, I mean, I'm interested in all kinds of people. You know, I enjoy hearing different people's stories, like, you know, their upbringing, how their families are, their careers, how, how'd they get to the place that they're at now? You know, what, what got them there? What, what have they gone through that's that's interesting to me? And so hopefully having conversations that aren't entertaining enough that you guys actually want to listen to. But look, at the end of the day, I'm not going to stop trying something or doing something because you or somebody else wouldn't do it.

I mean, not everybody has to understand what you're doing for it to be worth doing. I mean, do things for my pleasure, enjoyment or embarrassment. So, yeah, the, you know, look, take away is, and I'm don't want this to turn into a motivational podcast because Jesus, God knows that's not what any anyone signed up for. But I do think that there's something worth, you know, taking away from this. Like whether your version of the podcast is starting a business, applying for a job, you know, posting online, speaking up with, you know, or walking into a room where you don't know anybody, trying something you never done, whatever it is, like just get comfortable being uncomfortable.

I mean, it, you don't have to be this fearless, like, you know, person who can just do anything. But I mean, I don't even know if that's realistic. You just have to stop treating discomfort like it's automatically a stop sign. Being uncomfortable doesn't mean you're doing something wrong. I've said that now twice so. Let that sink in. Sometimes you're doing something you've never done, and that's as simple as it is. So look, maybe somebody will have a good laugh. You're probably going to be judged for sure.

And somebody's probably going to ask what the hell are you doing? You'll fail at whatever that uncomfortable scenario is definitely going to embarrass yourself. But I'd rather deal with that than missing out on on anything that could potentially become a, you know, a life experience. Like you just never know what something can turn into. And if you don't take the chance because you're scared of perception or you're, you're uncomfortable and you, you know, may have not done this, whatever the activity or requirements for this uncomfortable situation is, I mean, you might just miss out.

So I just really emphasize how much I've learned from that one statement and how much it's allowed me to, you know, to put myself out there and, and just have the experiences that I've had. So it was a, a rambling tangent of sorts, I guess. But so, yeah, there you have it. Officially have completed the Brandon welfare check. I can report that I am alive and well. I am happy in life, still married, still have a job, All three kids are alive and doing so well. And this is episode 3 of the podcast.

So look, Brandon's OK now. Thank you all so much for listening to this solo episode, the first solo episode. And don't forget to go back and check out the previous episodes with my son Carson. That is probably the cutest thing you'll ever see. Posted some clips of that online. And then I, if you haven't listened to the second episode with my famous triplet brother, Eric Michael Hare, be sure to go and check that one out. And yeah, I'm working on getting some, you know, really cool guests on and bringing them here to share their stories and, you know, their worlds, that they're in their career paths, you know how how they got to where they're at now.

Yeah, thanks for listening, guys. And remember, start getting comfortable being uncomfortable. Do I, do I need to say that again for y'all or do you think y'all got it? No, but for real. Like, I know this was like a random episode solo, but I, I truly do believe that if you listen to that statement and like process it, it, you know, definitely, definitely can relate to many aspects of life like I've touched on. And, you know, if you can start working on mastering that craft of being comfortable in an uncomfortable situation, it can only benefit you, you know, unless you're just going to throw in the towel and be the person that you're expected to be from another person's, you know, viewpoint.

So I just don't think that's a way to live, but that's my opinion and I'm entitled to it. So anyway, I guess that's enough for now. So thanks guys for listening and thank you for everybody who has supported me, those who have reached out to make sure I was good. Yeah, thanks for the content and this episode topic. I, I guess, could have done it without the welfare checks. So I truly do appreciate that. Remember, don't chase perfection, OK? If you stumble, mess up, fail, you're going to be good. Yeah, that's all for today, people.

So thank you for listening to another episode of the Coil Chaos Podcast by Brandon Coyle. We'll see you next time. Peace.

"Brandon... Are You Okay? | Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable | ft. SOLO Brandon | S1 E3

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